Galatas
6:1-2; John 13:35
A person that I was
counseling confided in me that he had found out that his wife of fifteen years
had been having an affair. The church where he was serving as a deacon dismissed
him for having problems at home. He was fired from his job and he lost his
house. In a very short time, all was lost. No fiber of his life was the same.
Everything he had held important, sacred, and loyal had been lost.
One of his friends had
recommended that he go to counseling and seek help to weather the storm. He went
for several weeks. He began to piece together the puzzle of everything that had
happened and why. It was very painful; often striking to the core of who he was
as a person and as a Christian.
He still goes to
therapy from time to time. But he had to ask himself the question: at the
moment of his greatest crisis, why did he need to seek help outside of the
church? The truth was simple. The church as a rule reacts by judging those who
fall, fail, or falter. Overreaction from church leadership and extremely harsh
messages from the pulpit create an environment where people in the pews fear
exposure. This exposure can lead to ridicule, expulsion, and rejection.
The church needs to
offer a full-service operation to its parishioners. The fact that people fall,
fail, and falter is a fact of life. In this moment of spiritual, emotional, or
mental derailment, they need to know that the church is a safe place, willing,
able, and able to handle the crisis that has consumed them.
In this day and time,
the church should offer a ministry of restoration. This separates the
counseling function and the regular program of the church giving the
restoration ministry flexibility to operate, as needed. This operation can
sometimes be outside of the normal setting and environment of the church. But
the focus must be on the wounded hearts of the people.
I am a true defender of
the faith. I would not condone or participate in any effort that tries to
dilute the gospel. But I am committed to presenting all of God's counsel and
this includes his message of restoration and hope. The Bible is full of stories
and verses that teach us to carry each other's burdens. Jesus himself offered
this wisdom when he said: "They will know that you are my disciples because
of your love for one another."
The restoration
ministry must be led by people with an absolute heart for it. More
specifically, we need "injured healers." These are the priceless
people who have been through the crucible of life and emerged through the power
of God's redemptive efforts and the restoration abilities of the church.
It is difficult to
understand why Christianity kills its wounded. These are the times when people
need the gospel the most. "Wounded healers" can identify and help the
individual on their path to spiritual health. They have traveled this path and
are familiar with its unknown waters. This type of guided discovery is the
difference between success and failure.
The restoration
ministry does not necessarily need to be viewed or conducted as a church
program. The people involved will not give testimonials or sing many songs. The
people served seek a safe place. They don't want to be noticed. It takes time
for them to start trusting again and wanting to fellowship with others. The true
goal of restoration is to bring the individual to the point of re-entry into
the main church body. But there is a lot of work to be done before that is
achieved.
Each individual has
unique problems in his life. People weren't born in clusters; they don't have
cluster problems, and most importantly note that they won't heal in clusters.
The pulpit ministry can reach the ears of the people, but when deeper and more
necessary issues come to the surface, the pulpit ministry cannot make the
connection. The pulpit ministry is best served to encourage and edify the
congregation through messages of life and hope.
The ministry of
restoration allows us to get to know people personally and give them the
individual help and attention they need. It also fosters healthy relationships
through small group efforts. These groups should be led by a trained
facilitator and promote honesty and responsibility. Openly discussed and
managed, they build trusting relationships through deep and intimate
conversations. In no other ministry can we see and experience the awesome
presence of God working in people's lives on a more regular basis with more
profound results.
The fact is that
restoration used to be the central message of the church. But fear and doubt
have driven out the sick and injured as the church seeks the strongest and
smartest to achieve its goals and vision.
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