“…I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I
do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those
things which are before, I press toward the mark…” (Philippians 3:13-14)
During the war in Vietnam, a young Vietnamese woman was killed
leaving behind her husband and her baby. The husband traveled far and wide
looking for work because he needed to provide for himself and his child. Often
he would leave the small child with neighbors. After one long trip, the man
returned to find his village demolished and deserted. He
began frantically searching through the rubble where his neighbor's
house had been and found scattered about some small bones. He was sure that
these were the remains of his son. He took the small bones in his hands and
held them to his body and began to cry bitterly. After a while, he wrapped the
bones in his shirt and carried them with him everywhere he went.
Many years passed and one night as the man sat in his house he
heard knocking on his door. He called out, “Who’s there?” “It is I your son!”
the voice outside replied. “My kidnappers set me free and I have spent all
these years trying to find you!” Trembling the man yelled back, “You are an
impostor and a cruel person. Holding the small bones to his body as he began to
weep he replied, my son, is dead. Leave me alone, go away!” His son continued
pounding on the door, but the man would not open the door. After a while,
he stopped pounding on the door and left crying. The man never found happiness
and he lost his son who was still alive. Why, because he was determined to hold
on to the bones of the past.
We are at the beginning of a New Year. This is a great
opportunity for letting go of the bones of the past. Someone once said that God
created us with eyes in the front of our heads so that when we tried to look
back we would get a stiff neck. The possibilities of the future call us to look
forward. The good news for us as the beginning of this New Year is that God has
set us free, free from the bones of the past.
Some people are stagnate because they remember and relive old
and painful memoirs. They are stagnate and paralyzed by old bones. Life does
what it's supposed to do, and then we continue. For some, last year was a bad
year. Despite what happened to us last year, the beginning of a new year is a
time to liberate ourselves of the past and begin anew. A new beginning is
possible.
Resolve to forget your defeats. For some, their defeats are
painful memoirs. Perhaps it is a memory of how you failed in a relationship.
Perhaps you made a few bad decisions, or said and did a few incorrect things.
What the Word of God is saying is that we must not allow the defeats of the
past to paralyze us and stop us from advancing. It is a time to say “I am going
to forget my past. I must be going stop torturing myself over what I did or
what I didn’t do”. It is a time to stop being chained to my past defeats. God
does not want you to live your life as a failure.
In this New Year commit yourself to leave your grudges. What is
a grudge? A grudge is a deep resentment that we cultivate in our hearts against
someone. A grudge is a spirit that will not forgive and leads to similar
actions and attitudes. To harbor a grudge is to have a feeling of resentment
against someone. Grudges are dangerous because they are destructive. Grudges
can destroy marriages, families, ruin friendships, and can divide churches.
If today you hold a grudge against someone, God is telling you
to let it go. Grudges are not only destructive, they are also self-destructive.
When you keep a grudge against someone you are hurt yourself more than the
person who you have the grudge against. If you keep on harboring a grudge, with
time it will destroy you, if not physically, surely emotionally, and
spiritually. It will make you a bitter and angry person. Free yourself from
your grudge, “forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against
any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye” (Colossians 3:13). According
to the Word of God, the way of getting over a grudge is to forgive the offense.
God is not asking you to forget what was done to you. To pretend
as nothing happened. What God is asking of you is to forgive the offense. What
this implies is to admit that what was done was wrong and painful, but that you
have decided to forgive the person who wronged you. I am sure that there is
someone, who is reading this, who has to leave their grudges and forgive the
offense that they have against someone. God is saying to you today that this
resentment that is deeply rooted in you has to go. What better time to make
this difficult decision to forgive then the beginning of this New Year? Now
don't say, "But, it is that you don't understand". The truth is that
you don't want to forgive.
Resolve to restore your relationships. Whenever I start up my
computer it runs a program that checks all my programs to see if they are all
working correctly. God in His Word asks us to do something similar in our
lives, that every now and then we should do a checkup of our personal
relationships to see if they are working correctly. Listen to what the Word of
God says: “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably
with all men” (Romans 12:18). God is telling us that we must do
everything that we can to restore our broken relationships.
Some of our relations might have been broken due to what others
have done and they perhaps do not want to restore that relationship. God
recognizes this. That's why; He starts by saying “If it is possible”. But some
of our relationships have been broken due to what we have done. One of the
things that you can do in this New Year is to admit your past errors and humbly
seek the forgiveness of those that you have hurt. Make a commitment to restore
your broken relationships in this New Year.
Make a commitment to turn your back on all your transgressions.
After the Civil war was over and the slaves had been freed many of them decided
to remain with their old masters and keep on doing what they told them. They were
freed but they decided to continue living as slaves. This is exactly how some
people have decided to live. Christ has made us free, but as those slaves, some
still decide to obey their old master, sin. Listen to these words in Romans
6:16: “Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey,
his servants ye are to whom ye obey…”
Some people have some particular sins that they keep on
committing. When we were saved we stop sinning, but there are other things that
we know that are a sin that we still practice. Perhaps, this was the way you
lived last year, constantly defeated by the same sin. Is your spiritual life
stagnate because you have learned to live with a certain sin in your life? The
Word of God challenges you to turn your back on that sin. It's time that this
sin stops controlling your life. You don't have to live through this New Year
being defeated by the same old sin. You can have the victory over it in this
New Year.
Will this New Year be just another year for you, or will you
make these changes and make it a year that changes your life. The Word of God
tells us; "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth
me" (Philippians 4 13).